Tuesday 3rd May 2022 – 8pm (BST)
Donor conception can be a difficult topic for one person to come to terms with, it’s something which can cause extra complexities when navigating this path to parenthood as a couple. In this webinar, Julianne Boutaleb, Perinatal Psychologist at Parenthood in Mind, shared her insights into the common scenarios where couples may begin to become ‘uncoupled’ as they go down this road together.
Often couples can be at different stages of the grieving cycle, where one may show ambivalence about the way forward, whereas the other is keen to press on, it may be that there’s a readiness on one part and anxiety on another. This doesn’t just happen within the decision making phase but can also become apparent when going through treatment, pregnancy or even finally parenting, when the reality of what this means may dawn on one of them and the manifestation of unresolved grief and loss can present itself.
Often couples on this path have come through many losses to get to this point, many cycles of hope, desperation, despair and so it’s important to talk about how this challenging path to parenthood can impact a relationship and how it affects both parties both where there is one genetic parent and one non-genetic parent and also when both parents don’t have a genetic link to their child.
Julianne is a highly experienced perinatal psychologist, who has worked for over 17 years in the NHS and in private practice with individuals and couples adversely impacted by infertility issues. As a member of BICA, she lectures and writes on how individuals and couples who are trying to conceive (TTC), pregnant or parenting following ART (IVF, ICSI, donor conception, surrogacy) or adoption may be psychologically affected.