Reconciling the dream: dealing with genetic loss

Tuesday 18th October 2022 – 8pm (BST)

The journey to donor conception can be tinged with loss – of what we hoped would happen, how we would become parents, the loss of genetic links (both with our child and our existing family) and the loss of our ‘fantasy child’ that we’d always held in our minds.

I’ll be chatting with one of our brilliant resident speakers, Julianne Boutaleb (Perinatal Psychologist at Parenthood in Mind) to explore the different ways we might grieve these losses and at what stages they may begin to reappear, especially if we don’t allow ourselves to validate and acknowledge them earlier.

Even though there may be excitement, joy and relief at finally becoming a parent we know that it doesn’t mean we won’t still face difficult emotions and resurfacing grief, particularly as family resemblance talk begins and worries creep in about attachment and bonding. In talking about dealing with genetic loss Julianne will share with us why it’s important not to sidestep these losses as we work to reconceive the actual child that we hope to now hold in our arms and how we might begin to work through them.

As with all Paths to Parenthub webinars, members have the chance to shape the conversation by submitting your questions ahead of the webinar and on the night, I hope you will join us there. (Please note that all webinars and live chats are recorded and made available the following day to members within the Paths to Parenthub website and the community app too).

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Speaker Bio

Julianne Boutaleb

Julianne is a highly experienced perinatal psychologist, who has worked for over 17 years in the NHS and in private practice with individuals and couples adversely impacted by infertility issues. As a member of BICA, she lectures and writes on how individuals and couples who are trying to conceive (TTC), pregnant or parenting following ART (IVF, ICSI, donor conception, surrogacy) or adoption may be psychologically affected.

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